149: Paradigm Shift: What I’ve Actually Been Doing All These Years

I often tell people that I’ve spent the past 8 years helping individuals get creatively unstuck, primarily in the context of community — whether online, like my Creative Sandbox Community for women, or in 3D, like my Create & Incubate Retreat.

This is true, but it’s not the full story.

When I started the Creative Sandbox Community as a 5-month pilot program back in August of 2015, my goal was to build a community to help women get their creativity back. To restore that internal permission to create that we’re all born with.

I always knew there more going on, but I didn’t have the language to explain it.

So I kept talking about the Creative Sandbox Community as a safe space for women creatives to get support to get creating.

Which was true… but something just wasn’t landing right. Because again, it wasn’t the full story.

Anyone inside the community could have told you as much, but I didn’t even have the words to ask. I was stuck in the paradigm that helping people get creatively unstuck was the end goal, and that limited my language.

The Power of Words

This lack of language is not an isolated issue. After last year’s Create & Incubate Retreat, I was having lunch with a colleague from my new consultancy, Creative Sandbox Solutions, struggling to put into words how special those five days were.

“Well,” he asked me, “why is it so special? What do people get out of your retreat?” He was truly curious.

And perhaps because I was still so fresh and full from the 5 days, I was finally able to tap into what the retreat is really about.

It’s not that creating is easier and more fun in community. (Though of course it is!)

It’s not even that you’re a zillion times more productive in that unique setting, surrounded by generous, open-hearted peers, all focused on their own creative efforts, with no outside-world distractions. (Though of course you are!)

What popped out of my mouth, while we munched on our salads outside on that warm September day was this:

“People may come to my Create & Incubate Retreat expecting to do their art for 5 days, but what people really get out of my retreat is that it changes how they see themselves and what they are capable. They literally walk away transformed.” 

“Wow,” he said, “that’s huge.”

Yes, it is. There’s a lot more happening beneath the surface than the descriptor “creativity retreat” can ever express. And “walk away transformed” is a much stronger value proposition than “Incubate Your Next Creative Project Distraction-Free,” which is what the landing page for the retreat used to say.

A New Paradigm for the Sandbox

The same kind of confusion with language has been going on with the Creative Sandbox Community. There has always been a lot more happening than any of my language to date has adequately described.

Now I realize that the problem was in the paradigm.

I was conceptualizing freed-up creative expression as the outcome that the community helps us achieve. But that’s actually the wrong paradigm.

In fact, freed-up creative expression is simply the first step. Or, rather, one essential step that helps us grow as leaders, as professionals or entrepreneurs, as parents, as humans.

In the Creative Sandbox Community, we support each other to get creating and we share our latest creations, but we are doing so much more than “show and tell.” We are really a lab for women’s leadership through creative expression.

• We practice going outside of our comfort zone.
• We learn to lean into fear and uncertainty.
• We take on the gremlins of self-doubt.
• We seek our own, unique voice.
• We work on unhooking from outside expectations.
• We practice self-awareness and self-compassion (my Golden Formula!) in order to establish habits that work for us.
• We allow ourselves to be vulnerable.
• We embrace the biggest possibilities for our lives.

I don’t know about you, but that sure looks a lot like leadership to me. 

Creative play is the route to your Big Dream, not the end goal. Whatever your Big Dream is, leveraging your playful Creative Sandbox self can help you get there.

And of course, the community is here to support and learn from you along the way!

The Intersection of Creative Expression and Female Leadership

The software industry has long used the term “sandbox” to mean a space for testing things out before taking them live. How entirely appropriate! Isn’t this exactly what we’re doing in the Creative Sandbox Community, after all?

The world needs your contributions. The Creative Sandbox Community is a safe space for women to practice sharing them. And to practice all the tools you need to embrace the biggest possibilities for your life.

I welcome your thoughts on this new paradigm!

Something Cool

The Expanse — My husband and I love finding a new television series to dive into, especially if it’s free on Amazon Prime! We both love sci-fi, and good writing and acting, and The Expanse has all of the above. It’s based on a best-selling series of novels by James S. A. Corey, that’s kind of a blend of space opera, militaristic sci-fi, noir mystery, and a dash of horror.

Here’s the description from Amazon:

“The series is set two hundred years in the future, after mankind has colonized the solar system. A hardened detective and a rogue ship’s captain come together for what starts as the case of a missing young woman and evolves into a race across the solar system to expose the greatest conspiracy in human history.”

We’re hooked! Check it out.

Enjoy!

 

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