When I sit in silence on my meditation cushion, I endeavor to focus my mind on my breath. Thoughts inevitably come in, but that’s not a problem — this is the practice: noticing the thoughts, then simply letting them go and returning my focus to my breath, gently, and with self-compassion.
(Since I notice my mind wandering approximately a thousand times during each ten-minute sit, meditation is, therefore, one of the most effective ways to practice self-compassion! I call it a self-contained self-compassion machine. 🙂 )