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October 12, 2014

The Sweetie Saturday Initiative

Yesterday was the first day of the new Sweetie Saturday Initiative, here at Living A Creative Life HQ.

The Sweetie Saturday Initiative is an expansion on Date Night, which MM and I established two or three years ago, when I realized that I was starting to rigidify into a full-blown workaholic.

That was the first realization, which I’d been trying to deny for years.

The second, equally important realization was that if this wasn’t how I wanted to live (which it very much wasn’t), I was going to have to take steps now toward changing that.

See, workaholism doesn’t just go away. You can’t work yourself into the ground, neglecting self and relationships for years and decades, and expect that down the road life will magically become easier and more gentle. It doesn’t work that way.

How you live your life in the present determines the shape of your life in the future. (Click to tweet this!)

I’ve been on a journey for the past four and a half years to create the life I really, really want, and let me tell you, that life does not include burning myself out!

So a few years ago we implemented Date Night: one evening a week when MM and I would get out of the house together and leave work behind for a few hours.

I must admit I was kind of nervous about it at the time. A night off from working?? Would I be able to manage it?? Surely the sky would fall…?

The workaholic gremlin on my shoulder did its best to convince me that Date Night would be a disaster, but thankfully I was savvy enough not to listen.

I quickly discovered that not only did the sky not fall, but a few hours each week of dedicated Sweetie Time — a genuine break from work (not always easily achieved, when the line dividing work and life and identity is blurry and porous) — dramatically improved my quality of life!

A girl could get used to this! And indeed, this girl did get used to it. Date Night became an instant institution.

That said, I confess we do periodically need to revisit our No Devices policies and agreements, as both of us tend to get lax about smart phones and computers, and then Date Night becomes just like any other night and loses its power to recharge and refresh.

This is where we get to practice my Golden Formula:

Melissa’s Golden Formula: self-awareness + self-compassion = the key to everything good. (Click to tweet!)

Practicing the Golden Formula means we notice where we’re slipping, remind ourselves that we’re human, and lovingly correct forward. No beating ourselves up.

Even with the occasional backsliding, Date Night has generally gone swimmingly. Honestly, I don’t know how I ever lived without it!

Then last week MM and I were talking, and he mentioned that we almost never get any daytime time together.

He’s at his nine-to-five Monday through Friday, and spends every Saturday and Sunday from 9:00am til about 2:00pm “scribbling” (ie, writing screenplays at a local cafe).

Naturally, I champion him in these efforts to feed his creative hungers, and I applaud his commitment and consistency. By the time he comes home, however, I’m typically immersed in whatever creative work (or “work”-work) I’ve got going on, and I keep charging ahead until bedtime.

As a result, we almost never get to do daytime things together like hiking, day trips, fun shopping excursions, etc.

Hmmm…. Perhaps it was time to add some additional dedicated Sweetie Time to our week, during daylight hours, so we could do such things together.

Not wanting to interfere with his limited writing hours, I suggested that we try taking Saturday afternoons as a sort of daytime Date Night, to do fun things together we don’t have time for during the rest of the week.

The Sweetie Saturday Initiative was born.

As with Date Night, I had some initial concerns: would I still be able to get all my work done, if I didn’t have the entire weekend to catch up??

Again, the workaholic gremlin on my shoulder kicked and screamed and put up a fuss. A whole afternoon-and-into-the-evening off from working?? What are you thinking??

By now, though, the gremlin’s fears were nothing more than whispers tickling at my ear. I’ve gotten used to taking better care of myself in the past few years. I’ve been learning first-hand how much better my quality of life is when I’m not constantly busting my butt and driving myself into the ground.

In fact, I started getting really excited about the Sweetie Saturday Initiative! This was going to be so fun and relaxing!

As it turned out, we spent a lot of our very first Sweetie Saturday doing things that aren’t particularly relaxing — for example, waiting around in the Verizon store to talk to a customer service rep about upgrading my phone… Then poor MM waited patiently in a dressing room chair at the Gap while I tried on some cords.

Not the most blissful activities in and of themselves, but as we walked to the car after our jaunt through the shopping center, I marveled at how great it felt to be completely removed from my regular weekday routine!

MM laughed. “Yeah, it’s called a weekend,” he said. “Most people take one every week.”

What a brilliant concept!

Working for myself for so long, I’ve allowed the weekend concept to get very hazy. Yesterday I had renewed admiration and gratitude for my ancient Jewish ancestors, who gifted humanity with the notion of a weekly rest day. Pure genius!

In this modern era, the fact that allowing myself to take a weekend day is such a big deal may seem sort of ridiculous, but how may of us deny ourselves the things we need or desire, even when part of us knows it’s impossible to live our best lives without them?

You may take regular weekends, but maybe you don’t feed your creative hungers.

Perhaps you still haven’t figured out how to integrate movement (aka, exercise) into your day, and your body, mind and spirit are suffering as a result.

Maybe you don’t give yourself the sleep you need.

Maybe you’re caught in a cycle of beating yourself up, treating yourself not with self-compassion, but in a way you’d never treat someone you care about.

Each of those things used to be true for me.

I’ve only changed those habits (and imperfectly so) by making the decision to do so, and taking them on one at a time. And I’ve only been able to take each habit or behavior on when I’ve been ready.

We are ready when we’re ready, and not a moment before. (Click to tweet!)

By making incremental changes now, we prepare ourselves to be ready for bigger changes later. (Click to tweet!)

I couldn’t have implemented the Sweetie Saturday Initiative a few years ago — it felt too radical. I needed to get comfortable with Date Night first. I needed to spend a few years letting it sink into my head that MM and I are okay when I don’t kill myself working, and in fact we’re both better off!

Perhaps I needed a few years of meditating regularly (also known as the best self-contained self-compassion factory ever!); a few years of taking better care of myself physically — getting out of a chair and into a treadmill desk; getting therapeutic massage and chiropractic every two to three weeks, rather than waiting until I’m already in pain.

In other words, maybe before I could institute something like the Sweetie Saturday Initiative I needed a few years of treating myself better, and acknowledging that I deserve to be taken good care of.

Whatever the trajectory, little by little, layer by layer, I am shedding the unhealthy habits and behaviors that have been holding me back, and replacing them with habits and behaviors that are helping me live my best, happiest, biggest, boldest, most creative life.

I’ve come a long way. And I have a long way still to go. Welcome to life.

What’s the next step you’re going to take, in order to take better care of you?

PS — Pssst! Know someone who might benefit from seeing this today? Pass it on!

August 6, 2014

Question Time! How Do You Start Again After a Loss?

Last week I sloughed off my normal life and immersed myself in an intensive workshop at BATS Improv.

We spent three and a half days playing games, sharing true stories, making stories up, and learning to do all of it as effortlessly as possible.

(As always, I was there wearing my student hat, and also madly taking notes wearing my teacher hat, collecting ideas for my next playshop!)

On Sunday, during a discussion about how to handle potentially sticky interactions with audience members, the teachers, Rebecca and William, shared a story that happened years ago, when the two of them were performing in an improv show called This Is Your Life, in which they brought a volunteer up from the audience to (you guessed it) interview about her life.

Rebecca found out that the volunteer interviewee was a mother of two, and after the woman had shared quite a bit about her daughter, Rebecca asked her about her son. There was a pause, and tears welled up in the woman’s eyes.

“My son died six months ago,” she croaked out.

The audience let out a sympathetic gasp, followed by a very loud silence. Womp. The energy in the theater dropped with a thud.

For an improviser onstage, this is rather a nightmare scenario. In the pressure of the spotlight, one might be tempted to somehow brush it all under a rug, move on, maybe (egad) even make a joke out of it. Thankfully, Rebecca did nothing of the sort.

Instead, she reached for a box of tissues sitting on the table nearby, pulled a tissue out for herself, then handed one to the woman. “I’m so sorry,” she said. “Do you want to talk about him?”

“No, I don’t,” said the woman. Then she proceeded to talk about nothing but her son for the next twenty minutes. (Isn’t that so often how it happens?)

A horribly uncomfortable moment was transformed into a beautiful one, and it didn’t stop there. The volunteer interviewee came back to every BATS show that week, and even after moving to another state with her husband, she still attends BATS shows whenever she’s in San Francisco.

What Rebecca and William only learned later, though, was that this uncomfortable moment onstage gave the woman her life back.

It turns out that she was an artist, but had been unable to paint since the death of her son. Rebecca’s question during that improv show was the catalyst that finally allowed this woman to start processing her grief, and enabled her to get back to painting.

Art gave this woman her art back.

Starting Again After a Loss

It’s serendipitous that I heard Rebecca’s story last week, because I recently received two emails in the span of four days, each addressing the issue of how loss and grief affect our ability to create. With the permission of the sendees, today’s Question Time post today is inspired by their notes.

Dear Ms. Dinwiddie,

I have read your website with great enjoyment. I hope it is alright to ask a question and I do understand if you are unable or unwilling to answer.

You have mentioned that you have had large blocks of time, in years, when you haven’t been able to create. May I please ask what you did that enabled you to go back to creating?

I have read your blog from May 3, 2013, “How to Get Out of a Creative Rut” and I think what I’m after is what happened before that to enable you to start again. Self-permission? Self-acceptance? What happened to allow you to let go and start again?

I have been a bit lost and unable to sustain any creative idea since my remaining parent passed away four years ago. I am 54 years old.

Thanks so much for your time and an excellent website.

Kind regards,
Linda

Dear Melissa,

My biggest challenge is picking myself up and starting over again. I facilitate journal groups for women, but after my father died three years ago I felt the wind fall from the sails. I am 71 years young, but it is clear as I rise from this self-imposed fog of grief and loss that I am finally ready to move on.

But how (one step at a time?) and to where? Ah, that’s bigger question.

The key word here may be sustain. I find that my creative energy goes in spurts and stops, has a difficult time digging in to focus.

Best,
Susan

Dear Linda and Susan,

First, let me say how sorry I am for your losses. It is not at all surprising that you’ve felt lost and unable to focus. Grief does that.

My own lengthy periods of creative paralysis were not initiated by grieving a death, so I can’t speak to your loss from an equivalent experience of my own. What I do know about grief, though, is that each of us has our own process and timeline. Processing a loss cannot be rushed.

That said, Rebecca’s story lends strength to the theory that telling your story, letting it out, is key to clearing the blockage that grief can put on our lives. I’m a big believer in the power of sounding boards, whether in the form of a therapist, a trusted friend, or a theater audience! I hope you each have a set of empathetic ears you can turn to — this may be the biggest healer of all.

Self-Awareness & Self-Compassion

Meanwhile, since both of you have expressed a desire and a sense of readiness to get back to creating, it sounds like you’ve moved past the frozen numbness of the early stages of grief. Noticing the desire is an important step! In fact, it’s the first half of my Golden Formula — self-awareness + self-compassion = the key to everything good — hooray for self-awareness!

The second half of the Golden Formula, the self-compassion piece, is equally important here. You have the awareness that you want to start creating again, and the feelings that go along with wanting something and not having it yet: perhaps frustration, sadness, longing. If you’re like me, you might even feel some anger and disgust at yourself for not getting on with it already.

This is where you get to practice mindful self-compassion: notice all those feelings, even the bad ones, and remind yourself that feelings like these do not mean there’s something wrong with you; they mean you’re human.

Our tendency is so often to react to bad feelings with more of the same: “I’m so frustrated with myself. And now I’m disgusted with myself for being frustrated with myself! BAD MELISSA! BAD! What the hooey is wrong with you?? You’ll never amount to anything!”

You’ve probably already experienced how unhelpful and counter-productive this is, so why not try the opposite tactic?

Dr. Kristin Neff, author of Self-Compassion: Stop Beating Yourself Up and Leave Insecurity Behind, offers this mantra for anytime you notice yourself feeling badly about anything:

This is a moment of suffering.
Suffering is part of life.
May I be kind to myself in this moment.
May I give myself the compassion I need.

With this approach, the ranty monologue above can transform into a kind of dialogue:

“I’m so frustrated with myself.”

“Oh, sweetheart, I know you’re frustrated. This is a moment of suffering, dear one.”

“But I’m just disgusted with myself!”

“Yes, my beloved, I feel how painful that is. I’m going to wrap you in my arms and hold you. You deserve nothing but kindness and love.”

With each day that passes, I become more and more convinced that self-awareness and self-compassion truly are the key to everything.

Focus

Meanwhile, let’s talk about sustaining focus.

I hear you both that you want to be able to sustain your creative ideas and focus for longer than you currently feel able. Again, the Golden Formula comes in handy here.

You can use your self-awareness to ask: What are you feeling when you find it hard to focus? Where do you feel it — your gut? Your heart? Your head? Your toes? What impedes your focus? What helps it?

Then, whatever your answers are, how can you be kind and compassionate to yourself? It may be that short periods of focus are simply part of your healing process, so can you allow yourself to heal, while noticing what helps you sustain your focus for longer?

Permission & Acceptance

Linda asks what happened that enabled me to start again after being so blocked up, and yes, self-permission and self-acceptance were a big part of it. After all, nothing is possible if we don’t give ourselves permission. And unless we allow our creative efforts to be what they are — even if we don’t like what we create — our tender creative spirits will stay locked up in an attempt to keep us safe.

Now I’ll ask you whether you’ve been denying yourself permission.

It’s not at all unusual for a survivor to deny herself the good life within her grasp. “How can I possibly allow myself to be joyful,” the thinking goes, “when others are suffering, or gone?”

This impulse comes from a good-hearted place, but it’s misguided and unhelpful. Piling your suffering on top of the already existing suffering doesn’t cancel it out; it only creates more suffering. The way to counteract the pain of suffering is to shine your light as brightly as you can, to show yourself and others the goodness that’s possible.

As I’ve written elsewhere, in my years on the planet I have come to the following conclusion:

Creating more suffering in the world by stifling my own joy does not make the world a better place. (Click to tweet this.)

Even though you may not be saving starving children on the other side of the planet, pursuing happiness in a way that doesn’t hurt anyone else is making one tiny part of the world better. (That part being YOU!)

And making one tiny part of the world better creates ripples that affect a much bigger part of the world.

Giving yourself permission to let go and start again could even inspire others to do the same — we just never know how what we do will touch people.

We Are All Always Starting Again

As for how, and to where, this is the question every one of us asks, whether we’re mourning or not. In some way, we are all starting again, whether it’s taking tentative steps toward creating after a long hiatus, or pulling out the 300th new canvas in as many days, or editing that screenplay you now realize isn’t done after all.

Until we learn to fly, one step at a time is all we can ever take. It never seems like it will get us anywhere, but surprisingly, it’s the only thing that ever does.

I think it is the fate of virtually all creatives to be always dissatisfied, whether with the size or intensity of our efforts or the resulting product, but it is this “queer divine dissatisfaction,” as Martha Graham put it so eloquently, “a blessed unrest that keeps us marching and makes us more alive than the others.”

You are alive. Keep marching, step by tiny step, and the path will reveal itself.

I’m cheering you on.

PS — Pssst! Know someone who might benefit from seeing this today? Pass it on!

July 31, 2014

Starting Friction

I have been wanting to write a blog post for two days.

What I have mostly been doing for the past two days, though, is not writing a blog post.

Yes, even professional creativity instigators struggle with resistance sometimes.

No matter how many times I commit to “going pro” and putting my creative work first, there are still times when I fall off the wagon… which is why I always say that the most important practice is just getting back on the wagon. (Click to tweet this!)

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June 19, 2014

The Self-Compassionate Way to Change Course & Get Back On Track [Finishing Blitz Post-Mortem]

Back on May 1st I started an experiment, called Finishing Blitz.

Buoyed by the phenomenal success of the Great ClutterBust, in which a whole gang of creatives banded together to tackle our individual clutter problems, I decided to apply the same structure to accomplishing another herculean task: writing my book.

Like the Great ClutterBust, Finishing Blitz, would leverage the accountability of a supportive community.

Like the Great ClutterBust, I would host work sessions where anyone could join me for a pre-determined block of time.

This time, though, instead of rallying together specifically to bust our clutter, we would rally together to work on any goal we wanted. And instead of two or three work sessions a week, I would host daily work sessions. And I would finish a “lousy first draft” of my book!

We ran for six weeks, from May 1 through June 11.

So how did it go? Let’s do a post-mortem!

Here are a few of the things I accomplished, thanks to Finishing Blitz:

I made great progress on Project Studio Makeover (though did not finish).
MM and I held a yard sale and got rid of most of Outbound Mountain — the massive pile of stuff which had taken over our living room. (Outbound Mountain [hat tip to fellow Finishing Blitzer, Denice, for this fun name] is not gone, but it’s a much smaller mountain now.)
I did finish writing all the thank you notes in the queue from our wedding back in December (but then my parents threw a reception for us in the middle of the month, so I’ve got a whole new queue of thank you notes to write….)
I published an article over at The Huffington Post.
I published an article over at Lifehack.
I made over a dozen new paintings, and brought my ArtSpark Newsletter back from hiatus.
I designed new business cards and had them printed (with a different artwork on the back of each one!)
I finished drafts of the Intro, the Quick Start Guide, and Chapter 7 of my book.

You’ll notice (ahem) that I did not finish the book.

I did not even come close to finishing.

In fact, if I were to judge myself on the basis of how much of my original goal I accomplished, I’m afraid I wouldn’t get higher than a D-….

However, if I were to judge on the basis of how Finishing Blitz improved my life, I’d give it an A++++++!

As I wrote here and here, committing myself to a daily creative work session was the real gift of this past six weeks. Instead of making me feel chained and constrained, it made me feel free!

Those three hours in the morning became my Date with My Art, something I found myself looking forward to with giddy anticipation.

Amazing.

This was absolutely the biggest gift of Finishing Blitz for me: baking in a daily creative practice.

For the first few days I spent the bulk of each three-hour work session working on my book. It wasn’t always easy — I hit up against all manner of blocks — but I kept reminding myself that a block is not a block to creativity; pushing through the block is the creativity! (Click to tweet this!)

Here’s a secret that only initiates know: putting effort into something is really satisfying! Way more than avoidance, or eating bon bons on the couch in front of the TV. Even on days when I wasn’t super pleased with my writing, the fact that I was making the effort felt so great.

I was on a roll!

And then I changed course.

Yes, about two weeks in, I made the tough decision to change tack.

One of the biggest questions we creators face is where to focus our energies. So often (especially for passion pluralites!!!) we want to do everything, and we want to do it all now. It’s easy to spread ourselves too thin.

Or we find ourselves spending energy on one thing, when we’d be better off in the long run spending that energy on something else entirely.

Oh, it’s hard! Especially when you’ve made a commitment — a public commitment, no less — to work on one thing to completion!

This is where my Golden Formula comes in so handy:

Self-awareness + self-compassion = the key to everything good.

See, for a long time I’ve agonized over where to focus my writing energies: writing more guest blog posts, or writing the book, or…? With some self-awareness, I realized that, while it felt great to focus so much daily attention on my book, in the larger scheme of growing my business, my audience, and my reach, it probably didn’t make sense. A book is probably not going to grow my audience; in fact, given the current state of the publishing industry, an author needs to have an audience before launching a book!

It crystallized for me in a session with my business coach that if I’m going to dive heavily into writing, there is other writing that would get me more “return on investment” right now than my book — guest posting on blogs with larger platforms than my own, for example, which has proven to be the most reliable source of new subscribers to my insiders’ newsletter and other mailing lists.

Still, I had made a public commitment!

So I asked myself, am I considering shifting energy away from my book out of fear or self-doubt? Or is this a truly sensible decision born of my deepest wisdom?

With deep self-compassion, and a somewhat heavy heart, I made the tough decision to shift the bulk of my work session time to other writing, while still “touching the [book] project,” as Jen Louden would say, a little bit every day.

Rather than beating myself up for “failing” at my commitment, I self-compassionately acknowledged that my initial goal was there to assist me, and if another goal would assist me better, then I got to change the goal.

Meanwhile, in the middle of Finishing Blitz I went off to my Create & Incubate Retreat, and reconnected with the joy of painting. I’d fallen out of my daily painting practice, and although I was now writing every day, I was reminded (yay self-awareness!) of how much happier I am when I’m also painting regularly, even just a little bit.

So I adjusted my three-hour work session once again.

Initially I had spent close to three hours working on my book; then I switched to spending maybe fifteen to thirty minutes on the book and the rest of the time working on blog posts. Now I was putting some of that morning work session time toward painting. Sometimes I’d paint first thing; sometimes I’d write first thing.

And painting more felt great!

But writing less felt not-so great…

What I noticed was that whichever choice I made, there were costs and payoffs.

Whatever I started with, it was hard to pull myself away part-way through. And when I did successfully switch focus to something else, along with the satisfaction of touching three different goals (the book, blog posts, painting) came the frustration of not giving any one of these goals as much attention as I really wanted.

Sigh… It’s simply an existential problem. I have no answer, except for the lifelong answer of using my Golden Formula to continually tweak and adjust as I go. Which I will continue to do.

And then Finishing Blitz ended and I fell off the wagon.

Whether because I needed a break, or out of sheer rebelliousness, once I was no longer accountable to anyone to show up at 9:00am, guess what: I didn’t.

I confess I allowed circumstance (“I have so much to do!” “I’m so tired..” “I’m so busy!”) to get in the way, and allowed my beautiful, new, “fully baked-in” creative practice to slide.

But remember, the most important practice is just getting back on the wagon! And doing so with self-compassion. (Click to tweet!)

My Golden Formula came to the rescue again. Everyone stumbles. Beating yourself up doesn’t ever help, but self-awareness and self-compassion do!

Self-awareness tells me that I feel happier and my life goes better when I’m consistent about dedicating my morning hours to creating. And self-awareness also tells me that I am about 5,000 times more likely to stick with my commitment when I am accountable to someone outside of myself.

With those two information points, and the self-compassion to lovingly give myself what I need, I decided to start a pilot program — a secret society and laboratory where grads of Living A Creative Life programs rally together to support each other in achieving our goals. In addition to a private Facebook group, accountability boards, regular rally calls, and optional one-on-ones with me, members get access to my daily morning work sessions.

We use the Golden Formula to tweak and adjust our goals and the tactics we use to make them happen. And we’ll continually tweak and adjust the program to suit the needs of the members!

(Want in on something like this? Hang tight — a few months from now, after the pilot program is over, you may get your chance…)

Guess what? Today I was at my computer at 9:00am sharp!

And guess what? I’m about to fall off the wagon again in a big way, but this time intentionally: tomorrow I leave for Jazz Camp West for nine days! The only writing I’ll be doing is my daily 3×5 (though no posting and no 3x5x365 newsletter until I get home), and I won’t be painting at all — instead I’ll be making music all day long. I can’t wait!

After all, a balanced life includes periods of extreme imbalance. (Click to tweet!)

Starting July 1st, though, it’s back on the wagon.

Onward, ho!

PS — Pssst! Know someone who might benefit from seeing this today? Pass it on!

April 30, 2014

How to Achieve the Impossible

Tomorrow I embark on a crazy experiment. Today was a trial run, and I must confess it wasn’t stellar.

That said, when something doesn’t go as smoothly as you like, it can be a terrific learning experience, as long as you keep my Golden Formula in mind:

Self-awareness + self-compassion = the key to everything good. (Click to tweet this.)

If I simply beat myself up for today’s “failure,” nothing would change for the better in my life, and in fact I’d probably quit my crazy experiment altogether. Instead, I used my “failure” as a way to notice what didn’t work and why. As a result, I learned a ton that I can use to do a better job going forward — how awesome is that?

I think you might also glean something valuable from the results of today’s trial, so I’m sharing them here.

First, Some Background.

In a move that honestly scares the stuffing out of me, I’ve committed publicly to write for two hours every morning (except Tuesdays and travel days) for the next six weeks. I’m running a program, Finishing Blitz, to help me keep this commitment, while at the same time helping fellow Finishing Blitzers to keep their own commitments and reach their own goals.

My underlying goal for these six weeks is to finally finish the first draft of my book. My overarching goal is to establish a consistent and sustainable daily writing practice.

Right now my practice is sporadic, at best, and given that approximately 92 1/2% of my work involves writing of some sort (newsletters, sales pages, blog posts, course content, launch content), a consistent practice would be perhaps the kindest, most compassionate gift I could give myself. (Click to tweet this.)

For now, I’m setting my work sessions for 9:00am to 11:00am. Starting tomorrow, anyone in Finishing Blitz can log or dial in to a private hotline promptly at 9:00am PT for a brief check in to share their goal for the two hours. Then we’ll head off to work, and report back at the end of the session.

(Side note: 9:00am-11:00am PT is my designated Finishing Blitz work session time, but it is by no means the required time for other Finishing Blitzers to work. Members can add additional work sessions to our Master Calendar at whatever times work for them, and/or use our private Facebook group to create additional pre-scheduled and spontaneous work sessions with other members. Or simply use our Facebook group or tracking doc to keep themselves accountable.)

This means I am on the hook to be at my computer, ready to write, by 9:00am every day.

Oy vey.

I am not used to this kind of structure in my mornings. Honestly, I’m just a teeny bit terrified-out-of-my-skull that I won’t be able to pull it off.

However; at the same time, I have to remember that I do have a track record of past successes at “impossible” things. For the Great Bedtime Experiment in January of 2012, I managed to break the 2:00am bedtime pattern that was draining me dry, and succeeded in getting to bed by 11:00pm every night. And just this past month, I managed to do the impossible again and clutterbust the Studio of Doom, thanks to the Great ClutterBust.

Both times I was afraid I’d fail. Both times not only did I succeed, but my life transformed in ways I couldn’t have predicted.

That’s what got me thinking: If I could do the impossible by getting to bed earlier and clutterbusting my disaster area of a studio, perhaps I could use the same kind of structure to help me do the impossible in other areas of my life, like, say, writing my book…

So I designed Finishing Blitz as a way of building in external accountability, and surrounding myself with a community of champions, to help me get to “Done!”

So far, members have shared goals of all sorts, such as:

Varnish the finished artworks which won’t actually be finished — and therefore can’t be shared with the world — until they’re varnished.
Get my newsletter set up and going!
Buy the camera and other photo equipment necessary to take good quality photos of artwork.
Finish up the “UFOs” (UnFinished Objects) that taunt me daily.
Register the fictitious business name I’ve been procrastinating on doing.
Set a regular time daily that I’m working, when I’m NOT procrastinating or goofing off.
Tackle the overwhelming list of to-do items that seem to be holding me back to the past.
Dedicate a chunk of time in the morning for creative work, and a chunk of time in the afternoon for “drudgery” work that needs to get done.

(Want to join us? Click here to name your own price.)

I figured I ought to try out this 9:00am-at-the-computer-ready-to-go thing once or twice before May 1st… but somehow it never happened, so today was my last shot for a trial run. Here’s what happened.

The Trial Run

Because of a late visit to Ikea with Miracle Man last night to buy a subset of the new furniture I’ve picked out for Project Studio Makeover, I got to bed about an hour later than I wanted… which resulted in waking up about an hour later than I wanted: 7:54am.

My first thought was, “Shoot! I have just an hour to do my morning rituals and get to my computer!”

(Not so good.)

My second thought was, “Hmm… This means I’d better not even think about checking email or Facebook on my phone — I don’t have time!”

(Very, very good! This enforced 9:00am check-in has some distinct benefits!)

Instead, after a brief toilette, I meditated first thing, for 12 minutes while MM (who was also running late this morning) was in the shower.

On a normal day that would have left about 45 minutes for journaling or playing in the Creative Sandbox at my art table, and feeding both my cat, Nika, and myself. Not a generous amount of time for all that, but enough for a little of everything if I were brisk about it.

Today, though, isn’t normal, because we’re dog-sitting for my parents’ German Shepherd, Chloe, this week. Oops… Her breakfast routine is a lot more complicated than Nika’s, and adds several minutes to the mix.

Still, surely I had time for a bit of journaling, I thought, so I wrote til 8:35, which left me a crisp 25 minutes to feed the critters and myself.

I should just say that it probably wasn’t the best decision to cook up pesto quesadillas, when a bowl of muesli would have taken a fraction of the time, but yes, that’s what I did.

All of which meant that when I raced up the stairs to boot up my computer and log into the private hotline/conference room, it was with a plate of half-finished breakfast in my hand, and the first half had been bolted down while standing at the counter. Not ideal…

I did make it into the hotline/conference room exactly at 9:00am, but it took me about ten minutes after that to finish breakfast and actually be ready to start writing.

So yeah, not ideal, but I learned a ton of great stuff! In particular, I learned:

Having a deadline to get to work really helps keep me on track, and makes me less susceptible to the temptation to fall into the email and internet rat hole!
I need to allow a lot more than 25 minutes if I’m going to cook breakfast, rather than simply pouring it into a bowl. Say 40-45 minutes, minimum.
If I have less than 40 minutes, a no-cook, super-quick breakfast is essential!
Getting up earlier would be better, so getting back on an earlier bedtime schedule (yes, I confess I’ve fallen off the wagon with that) would really, really help me achieve my 9:00am start goal.

I also learned that this “write for two hours” thing, before checking email, before even glancing at Facebook, is brilliant! I wrote and edited almost this entire blog post during that time!

So my trial run might have been stellar in terms of timing, but in terms of what I accomplished with it and learned from it, it was a massive success! If I can stick to this write-for-two-hours-in-the-morning for the duration, I think this is going to be a really awesome six weeks.

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Starting Again After a Loss

Self-Awareness & Self-Compassion

Focus

Permission & Acceptance

We Are All Always Starting Again

First, Some Background.

The Trial Run

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