So how’m I doing in my quest to re-invent my life, follow my evolving Blisses and create the life I really, really want?
My poor sweetie must be confounded by me sometimes.
One week I’m chirping about how much I love my life. The next I’m lamenting that I have no idea what the **** I’m doing.
Hell, I confound myself!
Welcome to the Wonderful World of Being a Multi-Passionate INFJ Enneagram 4.
A week or so ago, when I noticed I was spinning my wheels again, I took Peter Shallard’s Next-Step Challenge by answering some questions on a brief questionnaire. I received back from him an impressively substantial email, the heart of which said:
What I think you need to do Melissa, is start to find your “great why”.
With so many projects going on at all time, so many disparate balls in the air, I tend to get caught up in my to-do list and feel as if I’m flailing around, expending a lot of energy but not getting very far.
I lose track of my “great why,” and my sensitive system can tell. My Blisses seem to be bounding off toward the horizon, while I’m stuck in my to-do-list rut.
This does not for a happy camper make.
Getting back to my Great Why
So let’s take a deep breath, shall we? Pause, take stock and re-assess.
What do I enjoy most about what I’m doing now?
Since committing to my 15 Minutes-a-Day challenge on February 1, I’ve been making time every single day to make art, and honestly, my biggest complaint is just that I wish I could spend all day at it.
True, I’m not always satisfied or happy with what emerges from my time in the Creative Sandbox, but that comes with the territory of being an artist. Despite my frustrations, the fact is I’m vibrating with new ideas, and after years of longing to be prolific, I’m actually starting to accumulate a body of work!
Last night I drove up to Santa Rosa to see a one-woman show of my friend and fellow calligrapher Sherrie Lovler’s work. For the first time in years the idea of an art show feels within the realm of possibility, and that feels great.
I confess, I started the Thriving Artists Project to inspire myself, and in that it has been an astounding success.
I love, love, love conducting the interviews, and I love, love, love listening back to them when I edit them for posting on the TAP site.
The feedback I get from my members is wonderfully validating that I’m inspiring more than just myself, too, and that feels great.
A number of people have taken me up on the free 1/2 hour consulting offer, and what a treat that has been! I’ve been enjoying it so much, and learning so much about my fans and how I can help them, that I’ve decided to keep doing them for the time being.
I’m not going to give away free sessions forever, so if you want one, I do recommend scheduling sooner rather than later. Just go to https://tungle.me/melissadinwiddie and give me at least 3 (more is even better) possible time slots to choose from. I’ll get back to you with a confirmed time.
What’s the catch?
Well, I will ask you to write me a testimonial if you get something useful out of the session. But whether you write one or not is totally up to you.
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I don’t have a ton of gigs on the calendar at the moment, but I am performing this month (this Friday, in fact, in a benefit in celebration of International Women’s Month for Be a Dear and Donate a Brassiere at Red Rock Coffee Co. in Mountain View) and at the end of April with the Women of Song (formerly Ladies of Jazz).
And honestly, just playing a few songs for my fellow retreaters last week was a delightful treat. One woman could not stop raving about my voice and performance, and even recommended me to a house concert venue near where she lives. I don’t know if it will evolve into a gig, but that kind of a response to what I do always feels great.
Each of these things is part of my Great Why: to create in my various creative expressions, and to make a difference for other people, ideally helping them to follow their own creative bliss.
Despite all the wheel-spinning, over-work and under-rest, it’s good to know that in fact I am still following my Bliss. It seems that rut may just have to do with too much busy-work, which I’m working (no pun intended) on figuring out how to minimize.
How life is like yoga
(Yes, 800 words into this post and I’m finally getting around to the stated theme.)
Even when we’re busily engaged in what we think is following our Bliss, it’s easy to get off track.
In yoga, we need to continually activate and re-activate certain muscles, scanning the body and bringing our attention back and back and back yet again to the various places being worked (or that should be working) in a particular posture. Activate and re-activate the quads, for example, pressing into the floor, pulling up the kneecaps.
A well-lived life is a lot like a body in a challenging asana. We need the reminder to continually focus and re-focus on our evolving Bliss. We need to ask “What is important to me? What do I enjoy most? What am I passionate about?” even after we think we know the answer.
Perhaps especially after we think we know the answer!
Bliss, after all, evolves. Our job is to keep following it.
What about you? When is the last time you checked in on your Great Why? Where are you connecting with it? Where are you out of touch and needing a tune-up?